When you’re overwhelmed with a crisis, finding a counselor can be a rigorous process.We can only encourage you to go through the effort it takes because the benefit is worth it. Adultery is a huge issue and most all of us need this resource. And there are counselors that have adjustable fees based on income.A good counseling environment is one where both of you feel you’re being heard and that the counselor can be trusted.Give yourselves a few sessions to develop that. We’ve listed some suggestions below to help you find your way.Making the contact suggested does not mean that everyone you speak with has to know the details.Often you can simply say you’re looking for a referral to a good Christian marriage counselor and leave it at that.
PRAY Ask God to guide your steps and lead you to just the right counselor.
Ask those you know and respect Your Pastor, your physician, leaders in your church that work in the area of marriage. Personal recommendations are valuable especially if they’ve had occasion to hear feedback from those who have been counseled.
Contact churches in your area Determine how far you can travel to seek counseling and use that as your base.Sometimes the larger churches have pastoral counseling. Ask to speak with the person that handles troubled marriages and ask them who they recommend for counseling. Contact marriage ministries in your area Ministries interact not only with couples but often with local pastors and counselors and may have names to offer.Go online and check the phone book.
Call Focus on the Family Call 800-232-6459 and ask for a counseling referral.They'll give you names of Christian counselors in your area.
Look at AACC – American Association of Christian Counselors Their website www.aacc.net has an option for locating counselors by geographical area.
There are a couple of marriage ministries that have information about seeking Christian counseling on their websites.www.familylife.com and www.marriagebuilders.com.Your goal is to learn the most you can about how to seek out good Christian counseling and utilize that to heal your marriage.